Ask yourself right now: Do you really have a strategy in your life, or are you just reactively going
from day to day, taking what comes? The winners in this life know the rules of the game and have a
plan, so that their efficiency is comparatively exponential to that of people who don’t.
This book is designed to give you the tools you need for purposeful, strategic living .Taking a long
hard look at the negative behaviours in your life, and at your current life strategy can be more then
enlightening; it can be the beginning of life strategy. This self check of how you are living day to day
is of tremendous importance, since you will be, and are, accountable for your own life.
Life Law #1: You either get it, or you don't.
Strategy: Become one of those who gets it. Break the code of human nature, and find out what
makes people tick. Learn why you and other people do what they do, and don’t do what they don’t.
The primary goal is to have a quality of experience that is unique and rewarding. The skills you need
to create that quality of life are the skills of understanding and controlling the cause-and-effect
relationships of life.
Because you know how the game is played and you know the pressure points that drive the results,
you create a level of mastery necessary to win. If you know which behaviour gets which result, you
eliminate the errors.
Life Law #2. You create your own experience.
Strategy: Acknowledge and accept accountability for your life. Understand your role in creating the
results that are your life. You are creating the situations you are in; you are creating the emotions
that flow from that situation. You must be willing to move your position and embrace the fact that
you own the problem. Accepting your role in your problems, acknowledging that you are accountable
means that you get it. It means you understand the solutions lie within you.
-when you choose the behaviours, you choose the consequences.
-when you choose the thoughts, you choose the consequences.
-when you choose the thoughts, you choose the physiology.
Life Law #3: People do what works.
Strategy: Identify the payoffs that drive your behaviour and that of others. Control the payoffs to
control your life. The behaviour you choose creates the results you get. If you repeat that behaviour,
then by definition, those results must be desirable.
Life Law #4. You cannot change what you do not acknowledge.
Strategy: Get real with yourself about your life and everybody in it. Be truthful about what isn’t
working in your life. Stop making excuses and start making results. Denial, and the mechanism of
perceptual defence that underlies it, touch your life in more ways than you could ever imagine.
Problems don’t get better with time. You cannot change what you don’t acknowledge. And what you
don’t acknowledge is going to get worse until you do.
Life Law #5. Life rewards action.
Strategy: Make careful decisions and then pull the trigger. Learn that the world couldn’t care less
about thoughts without actions. The time-honoured formula for taking purposeful action:
Be
Do
Have
What the formula says is BE committed, DO what it takes, and you will HAVE what you want. With
this Life law #5, we’re talking about the DO.
Life Law #6. There is no reality; only perception.
Strategy: Identify the filters through which you view the world. Acknowledge your history without
being controlled by it. Accepting this law means that you embrace the fact that, no matter what
happens in your life, how you interpret that event is up to you. Whatever meaning or value a
particular circumstance has for you will be the meaning or value that you give it.
Life Law #7. Life is managed; it is not cured.
Strategy: Learn to take charge of your life and hold on. This is a long ride, and you are the driver
every single day. The essence of this Life Law is that you are your own most important resource for
making your life work. How well you handle your overall life will be a direct reflection of how well
you’re managing your personal life.
Life Law #8. We teach people how to treat us.
Strategy: Own, rather than complain, about how people treat you. Learn to renegotiate your
relationships to have what you want. Relationships are mutually defined: Each participant
contributes importantly to its definition. From the very outset, it is a give-and-take negotiation
between the participants. Together you and your partner hammer out the terms, rules, and
guidelines. Therefore if you don’t like the deal, don’t blame just your partner. You have ownership of
that relationship just as much as he or she does.
Life Law #9. There is power in forgiveness.
Strategy: Open your eyes to what anger and resentment are doing to you. Take your power back
from those who have hurt you. You have the ability to forgive those people-not as a gift to them, but
as a gift to yourself. If that person gets a windfall through your forgiveness, then so be it. The one to
save is you. The one to release from emotional prison is you. The power of forgiveness is the power
to set yourself free from the bonds of hatred, anger, and resentment. Seize the power and rise above
the pain. You are worth it and everyone you love deserves it.
Life Law #10. You have to name it before you can claim it.
Strategy: Get clear about what you want and take your turn. If you cannot name, and name with
great specificity, what it is that you want, then you will never be able to step up and claim it. Since
naming what you truly want is so basic to having it, you must proceed with great care in deciding the
answer. Being wrong or misguided about what you want is even worse than not knowing at all.
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